The Story of my Life

I've finished watching the complete season of SATC and I must say...Kudos to the writer! Very witty and entertaining...

So while I'm high with an SATC fever, here are some learnings from the funny series I got from the mail:

1. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't, nothing can make him stay. (Face it sweety, he's just not into you!)
2. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
3. If you have ANY doubt in your mind about a man's character, leave him alone.
4. Allow you intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
5. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.
6. Don't force an attraction.
7. Slower is better.
8. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
9. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't be friends! A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
10. Have faith in God regarding your relationship, but don't let faith make you stupid. God does things decent and in order.
11. Don't settle.
12. If you fel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
13. If he keeps changing his mind about the relationship - - thake that as a BIG sign that he is unstable. Do you really want to be with a man like that?
14. Don't stay because you thing "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
15. Honorable men take care of their business and aren't invovled in a whole lot of mess.
16. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
17. There's only one 'reason' a man dumps you; he doesn't want you.
18. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would you he treat you any differently?
19. You really do have to kiss a few frogs before finding the prince.
20. Always put yourself and your happiness first.
21. Always have your own set of firneds separate rom his.
22. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.
23. If he doesn't call, he just isn't that interested.
24. Be honest and upfront.
25. Know when to cut the cord, don't be strung along.
26. Don't fall for the "I'm confused role." Remove yourself from the situation to let him figure things out (but don't wait for him, move on).
27. If you want to have a clue as to how he will treat you, watch how he treats the WOMEN in his family (not just mom).
28. There's more than physical abuse, there's emotional and mental abuse. If he causes any of them...flee.
29. You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
30. Don't let him place rules on you that he is not willing to follow himself --double-standard.
31. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job.
32. Don't make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
33. Demand respect and if he can't give it, he can't have you.
34. Don't compete with other women, but be aware that men are attracted to what they see.
35. If you think he is cheating, he probably is. Confront him right away and if you fee he's lying, let him go.
36. Actions speak louder than words.
37. Never let a man define who you are.
38. Never rely on a man for compliments, look to yourself for that.
39. Never borrow someone else's man.
40. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
41. Just because he says he loves you, doesn't mean that he won't hurt you and it doesn't mean that you are meant to be with him.
42. To use painful hard-won wisdom -- 'get it right' the next time.
43. Know that you deserve to be the number one person in the life of the #1 person in your life.
44. Love is a verb...
45. Learn to give up your lifelong task of trying to make someone unavailable-available, someone ungving-giving, and someone unloving-loving....(They are what they are and it takes a hell of a lot to make them change.)
46. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
47. All men are NOT dogs.
48. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two way street.
49. If you don't love yourself...you can't love anyone else.
50. You cannot mend someone else's broken heart.
51. You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage...deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship...(believe me...this means a lot!)
52. You should neverl look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complementary...not supplementary.
53. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. (Yez...dating is REALLY fun!)
54. Never give more in a relationship than you are getting out of it.
55. Never become your man's "therapist".
56. When actions and word confilct, believe the actions. Respond to the actions.
57. A real health relationship requires two people. One person can end it - but it takes two to make it work.
58. Don't fall for the "I'm not the loving type"...when a man loves you there is nothing in this world (within reason) that he wouldn't do for you. (You hit the bull's eye honey!)
59. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him he takes it for granted.
60. Give him his space...let him go out with his boys, don't pressure him to spend time with you. You can't force a man to hang out with you.
61. If you wouldn't allow your daughter to be with him, you shouldn't.
62. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
63. Never move into his mother's house.
64. Provide financially for yourself an don't depend on anyone.
65. Never co-sign for a man.
66. Never believe you have the perfect guy and he is so innocent. (...there are ogres lying underneath just waiting for the right time. hahaha)
67. Never spoil your man; let him spoil you.
68. Never let a man mess up your credit.
69. When it's time to let go; let go. (There yah go Flip!)
70. Goo men should be treate like good men.
71. Don't play games. (...you can't play.)
72. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
73. Keep him in your radar but get to know others. (translation: Have a life!)
74. Compatibility in terms of educational attainment, values, belief, personal and career goals, and socioeconomic status, are important. (...but does not mean everything.)
75. Never date a guy who wears colored contacts. (He's gay! hehehehe)

I'm so glad the term is finally over. I get to do the things I love doing. Went back on track to working out. Started hanging out with my friends again...And starting to catch up with my DVDs.

Just last week, I watched Hitch, and lemme say...the movie was HILARIOUS! Was laughing the whole night. Will Smith rocks talaga! he never ceases to amuse me with his antics. He's a natural. Great at what he does. Have you seen Shark Tale? Funny...funny...funny...

Anyway, my friend recommended this movie. She said it was "our" movie. True enough, the movie is indeed for cynics like (us)me. Have I admitted that I'm a cynic? Actually, I'm still in the border line of being cynical. A part of me is screaming cynical. But deep inside...the person that I really am...tells me otherwise.

I've come to believe that men are incapable of long-lasting-deep relationships. They only love the excitement of the chase...cause when they're in it, they're completely different...The sweet, caring, thoughtful, and loving guy you knew has been swallowed alive by an ugly and stinking Ogre. Hahahaha...Poof! Vanished into thin air. Time to say goodbye to your fatasies sweety. Your prince charming has decided he wants to be a frog again. hahahaha

The other side of me believes there are some knight-in-shining-armor-wannabees out there. Wandering. Burned like me(hopefully not a cynic like me as well). Lucky you if you end up with someone like Alex Hitchens who believes that simply being fine isn't good enough. The person that I am tells me that I can fall in love with someone like Hitch...I can fall in love much more than I did the last time...The person that I am tells me I still wana leap and hope to God that I can fly.

So, am I a cynic or not?

My favorite lines from the movie:

"Life is not measured by the number of breaths you take, but by the number of moments that take your breath away."

~o0o~

Sarah: Let's just move on with our lives and we'll be fine.
Hitch: What if fine isn't good enough?

~o0o~

"Every guy has a legitimate chance of sweeping a woman off her feet, you just gotta find the right broom."

~o0o~

Two weekends ago, I went to Galera with my brother and his friends. It was a relaxing trip. Not the usual all-night-partying beach trips I always have when I'm with my friends. This one was a "I came here to sleep" kind of trip. hahahaha

We got there around 7am. Had our henna, and then slept the entire afternoon...Went out for a few drinks after dinner then head home to sleep again after a glass of tequila sunrise. I must say I was, again, a party pooper. Oh btw, I brought my bestfriend with me and it was her first Galera visit. So you can just imagine how irritated she was with me that we didn't party like crazy considering it was her first visit. As much as I'd really want to party hard, I'm sorry but I really feel I'm getting old for that kinda stuff. hehehe...Naaahhh...I was just really tired. I'll make it up to you bestfriend.

Anyway, Galera is not the same Galera I used to go to. It was jam-packed! You can hardly find a nice spot to sun-bathe. At night, the bars are crowded. Boats were everywhere...how the hell can you swim when there are about a dozen of boats docked in the swimming area?! Eazy!

We went snorkling sunday morning. For the first time, I enjoyed it. Was able to overcome my fear of drowning. hehehe...There's not much good stuff to see in Galera, not as much as Bora...hope we go snorkling again when we go back to Bora.

My brother really proved he is my "BIG BROTHER". Took care of us the entire trip...even financially. Hehehe...sarap ng may kuya. Incidentally, this is the first time we went to the beach together. So, its also his first time to see me in my bathing suit. hehehe...Kuya, are you surprised at how big your sister has grown? =) And because my brother was always around, I had to sneak out just so I can smoke...man that was difficult! Some sacrifice huh...

So there goes the story of my 2nd beach escapade. In case u are wondering what my brother looks like, spot the biggest person in this picture and you'll see he really is a big brother...=)




Oh btw, before I forget...u saw my henna on the chest? Can I just say...my heart was pounding twice its normal speed when that was being done...Hehehehe...Awkward grabe!

Ciao!